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The Call to Rediscover Ourselves
Tell me, what is
it you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?
— Mary Oliver,
“The
Summer Day”
In the passage from midlife
to elderhood, the personal challenge we face is “that of
confronting the lost and counterfeit places within us and
releasing our deeper, innermost self
— our true self. [We
are called] to come home to ourselves, to become who
we really are” (Sue Monk Kidd, When
the Heart Waits).
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Existential questions:
“Relatively
soon, I will die. Maybe in 20 years, maybe tomorrow,
it doesn't matter. Once I am dead and everyone who
knew me dies too, it will be as though I never
existed. What difference has my life made to anyone.
None that I can think of. None at all.”
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Sometimes
external events are the catalyst for our soul searching:
- Your children leave. Your life was tied up in your role
as parent. Who are you now?
- You hit the ceiling on the corporate ladder. Or you’re
“downsized” and suddenly out on the street competing with
30-somethings. Or, like the Jack Nicholson character Warren
Schmidt, you retire from a career that has held your
identity for years. Who are you now?
Other times the call — the invitation to embark on a journey
of self-rediscovery — is prompted by a vague, lingering
discontent, “a still small
voice”:
Finally you realize what’s troubling you. It’s that little
voice again, the one that keeps piping up during the
silences and raising the same litany of disturbing
questions.
“Is this all there is?’ it asks. ‘This home? This mate? This
job? This life?’
“‘Time is running out,’ it whispers. ‘A portion of my life
is already over. Shouldn’t things be better? Or at least
different?’
“But better than what? Different from what?”1
The call to rediscover ourselves is essentially a call to
inner work — or
mindfulness. When we recover the unlived parts of
ourselves and touch those original passions of our childhood or youth
— passions that we
repressed, to gain acceptance, or deferred, to make our way
in the world — we unleash new energy and new creativity and
often embark on a whole new direction in life.
Go to
The Call to Live More Simply
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